5 Lupus Facts That Changed the Way I Think About Living With Lupus

Lupus facts

When I first started researching lupus after my diagnosis, I wanted to understand what was happening to me. So I went online and read everything I could find. Fact sheets. Medical articles. Lists of statistics.

They were accurate, I’m sure. But none of it captured what it actually feels like to live inside this body.

I’ve been thinking about that gap a lot. The facts matter. They really do. But the way we talk about them matters just as much. So I wanted to walk through five lupus facts that deserve more than a bullet point not from a textbook, but from someone who’s been there.

If you’re living with lupus, I hope this makes you feel seen. If you love someone who is, I hope this helps you understand what’s happening behind the “I’m fine.”

Fact 1: Lupus itself is not fatal but what it does to your body is.

Lupus Is Not Fatal

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This is the fact that scared me the most.

Lupus is an autoimmune disease, which means your immune system, the thing designed to protect you, attacks your own healthy tissue instead. The disease itself isn’t directly fatal the way some cancers can be. But the complications? Those are real and they deserve to be taken seriously.

Lupus can cause inflammation in almost any organ system. The kidneys. The heart. The lungs. The brain. Over time, that inflammation can lead to permanent damage.

Lupus nephritis, which affects the kidneys, is one of the most serious complications and it’s not rare. Research has shown that up to 60% of people with lupus will develop some degree of kidney involvement.

That’s the part no one prepares you for. You get diagnosed with something most people have never heard of, and then you slowly learn that the real danger isn’t the disease itself. It’s what it can quietly do while you’re busy trying to live your life.

But here’s what I also want you to know: early detection and treatment have changed outcomes dramatically. Rheumatologists can monitor organ function before symptoms even show up.

Medications have improved. And many, many people with lupus live full, meaningful lives with careful monitoring, with good medical care, and with the kind of self-awareness that comes from living in a body that demands you pay attention.

If this fact scares you, I understand. It scared me too. But knowing the risk is not the same as being consumed by it. Awareness is part of protection.

Fact 2: Only 31% of adults with lupus are able to work full time.

Working With Lupus

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When I first read this number, I felt something complicated. Part of me felt validated. Like, okay, so it’s not just me. Part of me felt grief. Because work isn’t just about money. It’s about identity. Purpose. The feeling that you’re contributing something to the world.

Lupus takes a lot of things. But losing your career, or scaling it back, or stepping away entirely, that’s a particular kind of loss that doesn’t get talked about enough.

The fatigue alone can make an eight-hour workday feel impossible. Add joint pain, brain fog, and the unpredictability of flares, and suddenly even part-time work requires everything you’ve got.

Before I say anything else…

You are not lazy.

I wrote a whole post about this because I needed to hear it myself. If you’ve ever felt shame about what you can’t do anymore, you might find something there that helps.

Your body is doing something incredibly hard every single day. Fighting your own immune system while trying to show up for meetings, deadlines, kids, dinner, life, that’s not laziness. That’s strength most people will never see.

Some people with lupus find ways to work remotely, or flexibly, or in roles that accommodate their energy levels. Others step back entirely.

Neither path is a failure. Small everyday activities become big accomplishments when you’re living with chronic illness, and that includes showing up for work whatever that looks like for you right now.

Fact 3: 97% of people with lupus say they downplay symptoms to avoid upsetting their families.

People With Lupus

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This one hit me hard.

Ninety-seven percent. That’s almost everyone. Almost every single person reading this who lives with lupus has, at some point, smiled and said “I’m fine” when they were absolutely not fine. Has hidden how much pain they’re in. Has pushed through a flare because they didn’t want to worry anyone.

We do it out of love. We do it because we see the concern on our partner’s face, or because our kids shouldn’t have to carry this, or because our parents already worry enough. Putting your happy face on becomes second nature. (I have another post coming about this, the whole exhausting act of performing wellness. I’ll link it here when it’s live.)

But here’s what I’ve learned, slowly: the people who truly love you can handle the truth. And hiding your symptoms all the time, that takes energy you don’t have to spare. It’s draining, plain and simple. You’re already tired from the lupus. You shouldn’t have to be tired from pretending, too.

You are not a burden. Your illness is the burden. And I want you to know that being honest about how you’re actually doing isn’t something you have to earn or qualify for.

You’re allowed to tell the truth about your own body. You don’t have to protect everyone from what you’re going through. Sometimes the kindest thing you can do for both of you is to let them in.

Fact 4: Lupus is more common than cystic fibrosis, leukemia, muscular dystrophy, and multiple sclerosis combined.

Lupus is common

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Most people have heard of cystic fibrosis. Most people have heard of leukemia and MS. Almost nobody knows that lupus affects more people than all of those diseases put together.

There are roughly 1.5 million Americans living with lupus, and an estimated 5 million worldwide. And yet it remains one of the least recognized and least funded major diseases. One national survey found that 53% of Americans said they knew very little, nothing, or had never heard of lupus. More than half the country.

So why the gap? Part of it is that lupus symptoms including fatigue, joint pain, rashes, fever, overlap with so many other conditions. It’s famously hard to identify.

Part of it is that lupus research has historically been underfunded compared to diseases with similar prevalence, which means fewer treatment breakthroughs and less public awareness.

It’s a cycle: low visibility leads to low funding, and low funding keeps visibility low.

And then there’s the diagnosis process itself. Lupus is often diagnosed by exclusion. That means your doctor doesn’t find lupus. They rule out everything else first. There is no single definitive test for lupus and the conditions it gets mistaken for, like fibromyalgia and Lyme disease, often don’t have simple tests either.

So you go from specialist to specialist, test to test, while they cross things off the list. On average, it takes nearly six years from the time someone first notices their symptoms to get an accurate lupus diagnosis.

A majority of people with lupus or about 63% report being incorrectly diagnosed at first. More than half of those see four or more different healthcare providers before someone finally names what’s happening.

That’s years of not knowing. Years of being told it might be in your head. Years of your body fighting against you while you wait for someone to connect the dots.

This fact isn’t just a statistic. It’s a call to pay attention. To talk about lupus. To share what you know. Because when more people understand what this disease actually is, fewer people have to spend years being told there’s nothing wrong with them.

Fact 5: Lupus is unpredictable.

Lupus is unpredictable

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You can wake up feeling good. Make coffee. Answer emails. Start to think, maybe today is a normal day.
And then by noon, you’re back in bed.


That’s the thing no one prepares you for. Not the diagnosis itself but the uncertainty. Chronic illness doesn’t have days off. A flare up can happen any time and ruin your plans, and there’s no way to predict it. No warning system. No countdown clock that says, you have three good hours left, use them wisely.


Living in a body you can’t trust takes a toll. Not just physically. Emotionally. You stop making plans. You hesitate before saying yes to anything. You learn to qualify every commitment with “if I’m feeling up to it,” which is code for “I want to be there, but my body will pick for me.”


I don’t have a solution for the unpredictability. Nobody does. But I’ve been learning, slowly, to make a kind of peace with it. Not the toxic positivity kind, not “just think positive” or “everything happens for a reason.”

I mean the practical, day-by-day kind. Lowering expectations on hard days. Celebrating the good ones without clinging to them. Giving yourself a break when your body demands it, without the guilt.


I’m working on a longer piece about this what it looks like to live with uncertainty when your body doesn’t follow a script. I’ll link it here when it’s ready.


If you are in a flare right now, or coming out of one, or bracing for the next one: you are doing better than you think. Rest is not failure. Rest is what your body needs, and giving it that rest is an act of wisdom, not weakness.

What the Numbers Can’t Tell You

Learning these facts can feel overwhelming. I know. When I first gathered all of this, I sat with it for a long time and felt the weight of every number.

The facts are real, and they matter. But they aren’t a prediction of what tomorrow will look like for you. My mind often wants certainty my body can’t promise, and I’m still learning to make peace with that.

I don’t have a tidy ending for this. I’m not sure there is one.

Just the quiet reminder that you’re not a statistic, you’re someone living through something hard, and you’re still here.

That counts for more than any number. 💜

P.S. Did you know that if you’re living with lupus or many other health conditions you can Get Paid To Share Your Experience With Lupus, Autoimmune And Other Diseases?

You can get paid for your time and contribution when you are participating in research studies that involve phone interviews, online surveys, that kind of thing. This is one small way to contribute to research while putting a little money back in your pocket.

Learn more and participate HERE


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Lupus Is a Whole-Body Disease. Here’s What That Actually Means

When someone asks what lupus feels like, it’s hard to know where to start.

Joint pain on Monday. A rash on Tuesday. Brain fog on Wednesday. It moves. It shifts. You never know which part of you is going to act up next.

This isn’t one problem in one place. It’s a condition that touches everything. That’s what the word “systemic” means, but nobody explained what that actually looks like until you were living it.

If you’re reading this, you probably already know. But maybe nobody has put words to the experience yet. Maybe you’ve been handed a list of symptoms but never a sense of what it’s like to live in a body where nothing stays in one lane.

What “Systemic” Actually Means

Lupus is called a systemic disease. That word gets used a lot, but it’s worth slowing down to understand what it’s really saying.

The immune system isn’t confined to one organ. It lives everywhere. In the blood. In the tissues. In every organ system. So when it goes wrong, when it starts attacking healthy tissue instead of protecting it, the damage can show up anywhere.

That’s why lupus looks different in every person. One person’s lupus shows up mostly in the joints. Another person’s affects the kidneys. Someone else has skin involvement and brain fog. There’s no predictable path. The disease is as individual as the person who has it.

And that’s also why it took so long to get diagnosed. The symptoms didn’t stay in one lane, and neither does the disease. That confused doctors. That made many people feel like they were losing their minds. They weren’t. Living with a condition that is, by definition, unpredictable and everywhere, makes diagnosis a long and frustrating process.

Systemic Lupus Symptoms

Looking at a list like this can feel overwhelming. Remember that no one experiences every symptom, and lupus looks different for everyone.

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Joints and Muscles: The Pain That Moves

Almost everyone with lupus has joint pain and swelling at some point. It’s usually one of the first symptoms to show up. But it doesn’t behave like typical arthritis.

One day it’s in the hands. The next day it’s in the knees. Then it disappears. Then it comes back somewhere else. The unpredictability is as hard as the pain itself. It’s hard to plan around it. Hard to brace for it. Many people wake up and find out where it landed today.

And about one third of people with lupus also have fibromyalgia, which means a second layer of pain on top of the lupus pain. Widespread muscle aches. Tender points. Fatigue that never seems to lift. The two conditions overlap, and when they do, the exhaustion becomes its own full-time job.

Some people develop arthritis over time. The kind that shows up on X-rays. But even when it doesn’t, the pain is real. The swelling is real. And the way it moves through the body without warning is one of the most disorienting parts of living with lupus.

The Skin: When Lupus Becomes Visible

The butterfly rash across the cheeks and nose is the most recognizable lupus symptom. But it’s far from the only one.

Photosensitivity means the sun becomes a problem. A few minutes of exposure can trigger a rash or a flare. Discoid lesions leave round, scaly patches that can scar. Raynaud’s phenomenon turns fingers and toes white or blue when they get cold. Hair loss. Mouth ulcers. Skin that feels like it’s betraying you in ways that are hard to hide.

These are the visible symptoms. The ones people can see. And that visibility is complicated.

Sometimes people ask questions. Sometimes they stare. Sometimes they worry. Sometimes they look away. The skin is the one place where lupus becomes visible to the outside world, and no one chooses that. No one chooses to have their illness written on their face or their hands. But there it is.

And even when people mean well, even when they say “you look good,” it can sting. Because looking good and feeling terrible can exist at the same time. The skin tells one story. The inside tells another.

The Organs: The Symptoms Nobody Can See

This is where lupus gets serious.

Lupus can cause inflammation in the kidneys, the heart, and the lungs. These are the invisible symptoms. The ones that don’t show up on the outside. The ones that can make someone sound dramatic when they try to explain them to someone who’s never felt them.

Lupus nephritis affects the kidneys. It’s one of the most serious complications of lupus, and it’s not rare. Research shows that 40 to 60% of people with lupus will develop some degree of kidney involvement at some point during their illness.

The kidneys filter waste from the blood, and when lupus causes inflammation there, it can lead to permanent damage if it’s not caught and treated early. That’s why regular monitoring matters. Blood tests. Urine tests. Watching for signs before symptoms even show up.

Pleurisy is inflammation of the lining around the lungs. It makes breathing hurt. Every inhale feels sharp. It’s the kind of pain that makes someone hold their breath without meaning to, because breathing deeply is just too much.

Pericarditis is inflammation of the protective sac around the heart. It can cause chest pain that feels like the heart is under attack. And sometimes it is.

These are the invisible symptoms. The ones that are hardest to explain because nobody can see them. The ones that require vigilance, regular appointments, close monitoring. The ones that can make someone feel like they’re being overly cautious when they’re actually just paying attention to a body that needs more care than most.

Paying attention to the body isn’t the same as living in fear of it. It’s just being realistic about what lupus can do and catching problems early when treatment can still make a difference.

The Brain and Nervous System: The Symptoms That Make You Doubt Yourself

Brain fog. Cognitive dysfunction. Trouble finding words. Losing your train of thought mid-sentence. Memory problems. Headaches that won’t quit.

These are some of the hardest symptoms to talk about because they affect who you feel like you are.

When you can’t remember a word you’ve used a thousand times, when you walk into a room and forget why you went there, when you feel like you’re not as sharp as you used to be, it’s easy to start wondering if something is wrong beyond the lupus. But this is lupus.

The systemic inflammation reaches the brain. It affects concentration. It affects memory. It affects mood.

Some people with lupus also experience anxiety and depression. Lupus can affect the brain and nervous system in ways that influence memory, concentration, mood, and thinking. And in rarer cases, lupus can cause seizures or strokes.

The brain symptoms are real. They’re not in your head in the way people sometimes mean when they say that. They’re a direct result of what lupus is doing to the central nervous system. And they don’t mean anyone is broken. They mean the brain is dealing with inflammation it was never supposed to handle.

You are not your cognitive function. You are not the speed of your processing or the sharpness of your recall. You are the person experiencing those things, and that person is still here.

Invisible and Silent Symptoms: Fatigue, Anemia, and Everything Else

Then there are the symptoms that don’t fit neatly into any category. The ones that often go unnoticed by everyone except the person living with them.

Anemia, which means the body isn’t making enough red blood cells to carry oxygen where it needs to go. That adds to the fatigue. Blood clotting issues, which can be dangerous if they’re not monitored. Hair loss that shows up in clumps in the shower. Mouth ulcers that make eating painful. Digestive problems that nobody warned you about.

And the fatigue. The crushing, bone-deep fatigue that is the most common and most disabling symptom of lupus.

It’s not the kind of tired that a good night’s sleep fixes. It’s the kind of tired that makes getting out of bed feel like a marathon. The kind that makes people think you’re lazy when you’re actually fighting a war inside your own body. The immune system is constantly activated. It’s burning through energy even when you’re lying still. That’s not laziness. That’s lupus.

The fatigue is real. It’s not in your head. And it’s one of the hardest symptoms to live with because it’s invisible and it never seems to let up.

When the Symptoms Drag You Down

If you just read through all of that and felt overwhelmed, I understand.

The list is long. The body is complicated. It’s easy to look at everything lupus can do and feel like you’re falling apart. Like the body is a battlefield and you’re losing.

But here’s a different way to hold it.

The symptoms are real. The list is long. But you are not the list. You are the person living through it. And the fact that you’re still here, still managing, still showing up in whatever way you can, that’s not weakness. That’s evidence of something in you that hasn’t been broken.

You are not falling apart. You are living with something difficult. And those are two very different things. Finding hope doesn’t mean ignoring the hard parts. It means recognizing that you’re still here, and that counts for something.

P.S. Did you know that if you’re living with lupus or many other health conditions you can Get Paid To Share Your Experience With Lupus, Autoimmune And Other Diseases?

You can get paid for your time and contribution when you are participating in research studies that involve phone interviews, online surveys, that kind of thing. This is one small way to contribute to research while putting a little money back in your pocket.

Learn more and participate in research studies HERE

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Attention: How To Recognize Early Lupus Symptoms

Early Lupus Symptoms

Lupus is an autoimmune disease in which the body’s immune system mistakenly attacks healthy tissue. It has a variety of symptoms and it affects each individual uniquely. Some people have severe symptom while others have only few mild ones.

Early lupus symptoms are similar to those of other health conditions and as result having them does not necessarily mean you have lupus. If you experience any of these symptoms or suspect you may have lupus you should always see a doctor for a correct diagnosis.

Hair Loss

Lupus can cause hair loss due to inflammation of the skin and scalp. Some even have thinning of eyebrows, eyelashes, beards and other body hair. Hair becomes ragged, feels brittle and breaks easily.

A successful lupus treatment can result in re-growth of the hair. However, hair loss may become permanent if lupus caused lesions on your scalp.

Skin Rash

Another typical early lupus symptom is the butterfly-shaped rash that appears on both cheeks and over the bridge of the nose. It can occur suddenly or appear after exposure to sunlight.

Lupus can also result in non-itchy lesions in other body parts and may even cause hives. Many patients are sensitive to sun or even artificial lighting with some experiencing discoloration of toes and fingers.

Pulmonary Issues

Research studies show that about 50% of people with SLE experience lung involvement during the course of their disease. There are 5 main types of lung problems that can occur in lupus:

  • Pleuritis or pleurisy when the 2-layered membrane surrounding the lungs called pleura is affected by inflammation. People with pleuritis often experience pain when taking deep breaths due to inflammation creating more pressure on the lungs.
  • Acute lupus pneumonitis affects up to10% of lupus patients and is a serious condition that progresses quickly. It requires an immediate attention and often is treated with immuno-suppressive drugs and corticosteroids. Common symptoms are shortness of breath, chest pain and a dry cough that may bring up blood.
  • Chronic (fibrotic) lupus pneumonitis develops gradually over years. Often people do not realize that they have it because they cannot connect the initial symptoms with lupus.
  • Pulmonary hypertension can affect about 10% of people with lupus. It is a unique form of high blood pressure in which the blood vessel thickens and reduce the amount of blood that goes to the lungs. This effect creates a condition called hypoxia when you body’s tissues become deprived of oxigen.
  • “Shrinking lung” syndrome creates a sense of breathlessness and reduced chest expansion.

Fatigue

According to research, about 90% of patients with lupus experience some level of fatigue. In most cases it is caused by complications and underlying medical problems such as fibromyalgia, thyroid issues, depression, anemia or a kidney problem. Sometimes fatigue is a side effect of medication.

Fever

One of early lupus symptoms is low grade fever without any apparent reason. Low grade fever could be a sign of inflammation, imminent flare-up or infection. It can be helpful to be aware of this fact and watch for a higher temperature because it can be an early indicator of a lupus flare up or active infection.

Kidney Inflammation

People with lupus may develop a kidney condition known as nephritis that makes it harder for kidney to filter waste and toxins from the blood. Signs associated with nephritis include high blood pressure and swelling in the lower legs and feet.

According to the Lupus Foundation of America, nephritis usually begins within 5 years of the start of lupus. Frequent urination, darker urine and blood in the urine are also common signs of nephritis to watch for. 

Gastrointenstinal Problems

Patients with lupus usually complain of occasional heartburns, acid indigestion or other gastrointestinal issues. 

Painful Swollen Joints

Lupus can cause pain, stiffness and swelling in your joints, especially in the morning. It may be mild at first, gradually becoming more visible. Joint problems come and go just as other lupus symptoms.

Thyroid Problems

Many patients with lupus also develops autoimmune thyroid disease. Your body metabolism is controlled by the thyroid gland that affects all bodily functions and vital organs including kidney, heart and lungs. Low thyroid function of hypothyroidism can result in weight gain, dry skin, dry hair and moodiness.

Dry Eyes And Mouth

Lupus may cause you have a dry mouth and gritty, dry eyes as well. This is because some patients develop another antoimmune disorder refered to as Sjogren’s Syndrome.

This disorder causes malfunctioning of the glands responsible for secreting tears and saliva. Women may also experience dryness of vagina. Doctors can give medications to increase saliva and tears secretion after they rule out lupus. 

Other Symptoms

Other possible early lupus symptoms include chest pain, muscle pain, depression and osteoporosis. Other though more rare symptoms are seizures, anemia and dizziness. Interested to learn more about lupus symptoms? Check out this infographic that can help you to visualize systemic lupus symptoms and how lupus can affect your body

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What Is SLE: Here Is What You Need To Know

What is SLE

The immune system is responsible for defending your body against bacteria and dangerous infections. When the immune system fails to recognize and attacks its own body confusing it for foreign invades, an autoimmune disease can occur. Systemic lupus erythematosus or SLE is one among over 100 autoimmune conditions known today. 

What Is Lupus?

SLE is a chronic inflammatory disease that can affect almost any organ or body’s system. It follows a relapsing and remitting course causing a widespread tissue damage and inflammation. Lupus can affect lungs, skin, joints, blood cells, kidneys, brain and heart.

According to the Lupus Foundation of America, at least 1.5 million people in the United States and 5 million people worldwide are living with lupus. Each year more than 16,000 new cases of lupus are reported in the United States alone.

SLE more often affects women than men with a ratio 10 to 1. In addition women of color who have African, Hispanic or Asian descent are 2 to 3 times more likely to get lupus than white women. However, it is important to say that people of all races and ethnicities can develop lupus.

Five types of lupus have been discovered, however SLE is the most serious and common type of lupus.

Impact Of Lupus

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Causes

The main cause of SLE is still unknown, however there is a strong scientific evidence that it is caused by a combination of genetic predisposition and environmental factors. 

Some of the possible triggers of SLE include infection, viruses, sunlight, and other environmental factors. Hormonal changes also play a role in SLE. That is why it is more common in young women than men. Genetic factors also make some people prone to autoimmune diseases.

Studies show that lupus patients may not be able to effectively get rid of damaged and old body cells. The result is this inflammatory reaction.

Symptoms

Symptoms of SLE may vary greatly from individual to individual depending on the bodily tissue affected. People with lupus may experience periods of flares when symptoms show up, and periods of remission when symptoms are under control.

During a lupus flare symptoms begin suddenly with fever. It is important to watch for warning signs or early lupus symptoms that help to recognize a coming lupus flare. Flares can be classified as mild, moderate, or severe depending on the severity of symptoms.

In other patients the symptoms may develop gradually over months or years. They feel unwell; suffer from frequent episodes of fever or any of the symptoms listed below. The symptoms may be minimal or absent sometimes. 

-Muscle pain and swollen or painful joints

-Red rashes on the face

-Chest pain when taking deep breaths

-Sensitivity to sunlight

-Unusual hair loss

-Severe fatigue

-Swollen glands

-Mouth ulcers

-Edema or swelling in legs

-Anemia

-Blood clotting complications

-Raynaud’s syndrome (Fingers tingle and turn white or blue when cold)

Other symptoms depend on the part of the body affected by SLE such as the heart, digestive tract etc.

Diagnosis

Diagnosis of lupus can be difficult and in some cases it can take many years because it is a multi-symptom disease that can affect nearly every organ system in the body. This makes lupus manifestation highly variable with some symptoms overlapping with other health conditions.

Your doctor will carry out a physical exam to check for the common signs of SLE. Since there is no single diagnostic test, screenings will help your doctor end up with an informed diagnosis. They include a lupus blood tests, lupus antibody tests, chest x-ray and urinalysis.

After your symptoms and test results evaluation doctor makes an assessment and diagnosis based on specific criteria. In 2012 American College of Rheumatology (ACR) introduced 11 diagnostic criteria for SLE that produce a sensitivity of 85% and a specificity of 95% for diagnosing lupus

Treatment

Current SLE treatments offered by a conventional medicine are only aimed at easing its symptoms but not curing it. The treatment will vary depending on which parts of the body are affected and how severe is the damage of the tissue. It is recommended that you go for regular medical checkups instead of waiting for the disease to flare.

Treatments may include:

-Steroid creams for dealing with rashes

-Anti-inflammatory medications to ease stiffness and joint pains

-Varying doses of corticosteroids to reduce the immune response

-Anti malarial drugs such as hydroxychloroqiune and chloroquine are used for joint and skin problems. An eye test is recommended if these drugs are used because they can accumulate easily in the eye.

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